When you go out in public with your significant other based on how he/she looked once as opposed to how they look now? Has the six pack been lost to the twelve pack of soda, are the once banging curves now thunder thighs? How do you feel about your spouse not being what he or she one was?
Well in the Caribbean we’ve always made it quiet clear how we feel often through music.
Exhibit A: Mac Fingall – Big Belly Man
In this soca epic the Bajan maaga man made it abundantly clear what he knows what the ladies like and a big belly is not in the portfolio. Now imagine a big man walking down the streets with his lady and hears this. LOL….awkward!
But how how do you think the woman would feel?
Exhibit B: Admiral Bailey – Big Belly Man
In this corner we have the Dancehall come back and the response is basically; talk all you want is me she with cause me got it(money) like that!
So would you be someone you not physically attracted to for likes?
And for the ladies:
Exhibit C: Red Rat – Shelly-Anne
So what if Shelly Anne decided to change her ways, would you proudly stroll the town hand in hand without feeling…like someone is looking at you.(O_0).
Throughout the Caribbean there seems to be a widespread and colossal obsession with being a sexual stud among the men. It isn’t about the art of pleasuring a woman or the satisfaction in her delight that gives pleasure, but the sense that he is some kind of young gun or ‘Stulla’ as Jamaicans say. But why is so much attention put on being a tiger as opposed to a lover in bed?
Well that’s not on easy one and the most obvious assumption would be Dancehall or Soca music because there infectious instrumentals and catchy lyrics tend to be ripe and bearing with strong and sometimes rude sexually expressions. From Vybz Kartel to Machel Montana to Mr. Vegas its all about being a champion in bed or as Shabba Ranks puts it a “bedroom bully” SHABBA! lol
Case in point Mr. Vegas’s latest banger
Even though in this song the emphasis is placed on the females ability to ‘Bruk it Down’. The lyrics still implies the men must be large and in charge when its time for action. The women should take some credit for the behavior of the men since they are very vocal of the type of men they like and most openly admit that if your no stulla your wasting there time.
Out of all the men in the Caribbean probably no other group is more vocal about there sexual prowess than the Jamaicans who seem to be convinced there the greatest thing to happen to to women since life itself. There is a specific topic I want to post about the Jamaican men/ Yaardy’s and its all about their hypocrisy concerning the oral end of sexual pleasure. It is a topic that has been explored very publicly by numerous Jamaican figures such as Dr. Kingsley “Ragashanti” Stewart who is adamant that he has never gone down there before yet can tell you any and every technique.
In the meantime, here are some long time gems, enjoy.
Buju Banton ft Carol González – No Second Class Love
The J’can mega producer was found dead at home in his Ocho Rios home. The disk jock was without a doubt one of the best in Jamaica with an uncanny ability to manipulate and harness the power of the islands historic groove. From Dennis Brown to Shabba Ranks, Mighty Mike displayed unrival skills as he crafted the sound which would be broadcasted from his Irie FM studio in Jamaica to the world. He was truly one of di baddiss fe eva do road. He will be missed nationwide, regional and globally because from you can hear and love reggae music you suppose to know Mighty Mike.
In moving past this loss of a great we will never forget the radio veteran and we will keep jamming to the irie sound thanks to those who came after the great; Sunshine and Liquid ago hold it fe the I. Straight blessing to everyone, “love the life you live and live the life you love.” – Half Point
In a country consistent plagued with the burden of being homophobic in this increasingly liberal West, it is very interesting and somewhat strange when a Jamaican public figure come out clean and don’t play hypocrite (lord knows there a so many of them) and just says it. You know what I’m gay.
I sincerely doubt there will be any reprocussions after Diana Kings’ admitting her real sexual orientation besides from a few dropped jaws. And a few interviews where she explains why she held the truth secret so long.
In JA the problem really isn’t with the lesbians but with the gay men or ‘battyboys’. Many Jamaicans say by not supporting the gay lifestyle they’re being good citizen and upholding the ‘Buggery Law”; which should be noted was put in place and rigorously exercised by the British crown which ruled Jamaica.
I sincerely hope the best for Diana King and I wish her eternal blessings. Mi love yuh gyal!
Here is the Facebook post:
COMING OUT ISN’T ABOUT BROADCASTING WHATS GOING ON MY BEDROOM (and there in lies the problem if thats what U think) IT’S NOT ABOUT SELLING MUSIC OR GAINING FANS. KMT. IT’S A FREEDOM OF MY SPIRIT & A CELEBRATION OF ALL THAT I AM, EVERY PIECE OF ME. FROM MY BIG NOSE TO THE COLOR OF MY SKIN TO THE STRETCH MARKS ON MY BELLY. MORE PEOPLE SHOULD “COME OUT” OF WHATEVER IS HOLDING THEM BACK AND STOP WEARING THE MASKS OF SOCIETY AND LIVING IN DENIAL … JUST B WHO U R. CELEBRATE IT! LOVE IT! BE PROUD!!